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Statistics on Teen Dating Violence

  • Nearly three in four tweens (72%) say boyfriend/girlfriend relationships usually begin at age 14 or younger. (Liz Claiborne Inc. study on teen dating abuse conducted by Teenage Research Unlimited, February 2008.)

Hampir 3 dari 4 remaja (72%) mengatakan sudah berpacaran sebelum usia 14 tahun.

  • 62% of tweens (age 11-14) who have been in a relationship say they know friends who have been verbally abused (called stupid, worthless, ugly, etc) by a boyfriend/girlfriend. (Liz Claiborne Inc. study on teen dating abuse conducted by Teenage Research Unlimited, February 2008.)

62% remaja (11-14 tahun) yang sudah berpacaran, mengatakan: Mereka punya teman yang dihina-hina (diejek). Dikata-katai: bodoh, tidak berguna, jelek, dll oleh pacarnya.

  • Only half of all tweens (age 11-14) claim to know the warning signs of a bad/hurtful relationship. (Liz Claiborne Inc. study on teen dating abuse conducted by Teenage Research Unlimited, February 2008.

Hanya setengah dari remaja usia 11-14 tahun yang menyatakan mengetahui tanda-tanda bahaya dari hubungan yang menyakitkan.

  • More than three times as many tweens (20%) as parents (6%) admit that parents know little or nothing about the tweens’ dating relationships. (Liz Claiborne Inc. study on teen dating abuse conducted by Teenage Research Unlimited, February 2008.)

Lebih dari 3 kali jumlah remaja (20%) sebagai orang tua (6%) mengakui bahwa orang tua mereka hanya tahu sedikit atau tidak tahu sama sekali tentang pacaran remaja.

  • 1  in 3 teenagers report knowing a friend or peer who has been hit, punched, kicked, slapped, choked or physically hurt by their partner. (Liz Claiborne Inc. study on teen dating abuse conducted by Teenage Research Unlimited, February 2005.)

1 dari 3 remaja melaporkan bahwa ada teman yang baru saja dipukul, ditonjok, ditendang, ditampar, dicekik, atau disakiti secara fisik oleh pasangannya.

  • Nearly 1 in 5 teenage girls who have been in a relationship said a boyfriend had threatened violence or self-harm if presented with a break-up. (Liz Claiborne Inc. study on teen dating abuse conducted by Teenage Research Unlimited, February 2005.)

Hampir 1 dari 5 remaja putri yang berpacaran, diancam akan dikasari atau disakiti pasangannya, kalau berani memutuskan hubungan.

  • 13% of teenage girls who said they have been in a relationship report being physically hurt or hit. (Liz Claiborne Inc. study on teen dating abuse conducted by Teenage Research Unlimited, February 2005.)

13% remaja putri melaporkan bahwa mereka sudah disakiti atau dilukai secara fisik oleh pacar mereka.

  • 1 in 4 teenage girls who have been in relationships reveal they have been pressured to perform oral sex or engage in intercourse. (Liz Claiborne Inc. study on teen dating abuse conducted by Teenage Research Unlimited, February 2005.)

1 dari 4 remaja putri yang berpacaran memberanikan diri menyatakan bahwa mereka dipaksa untuk melakukan oral sex atau hubungan seks.

  •  More than 1 in 4 teenage girls in a relationship (26%) report enduring repeated verbal abuse. (Liz Claiborne Inc. study on teen dating abuse conducted by Teenage Research Unlimited, February 2005.)

1 dari 4 remaja putri yang berpacaran (26%) melaporkan bahwa mereka kerap menerima perkataan kasar berulang kali.

  • 80% of teens regard verbal abuse as a “serious issue” for their age group. (Liz Claiborne Inc. study on teen dating abuse conducted by Teenage Research Unlimited, February 2005.)

80% remaja menyadari bahwa perkataan kasar merupakan suatu yang serius bagi orang seusia mereka.

  • If trapped in an abusive relationship, 73% of teens said they would turn to a friend for help; but only 33% who have been in or known about an abusive relationship said they have told anyone about it. (Liz Claiborne Inc. study on teen dating abuse conducted by Teenage Research Unlimited, February 2005.)

Jika terperangkap dalam relasi yang abusive, 73% remaja akan mencari pertolongan ke teman; tapi  33% menyembunyikannya sendiri (tidak memberitahu siapa-siapa).

  •  Twenty-four percent of 14 to 17-year-olds know at least one student who has been the victim of dating violence, yet 81% of parents either believe teen dating violence is not an issue or admit they don’t know if it is an issue. (Survey commissioned by the Empower Program, sponsored by Liz Claiborne Inc. and conducted by Knowledge Networks, Social Control, Verbal Abuse, and Violence Among Teenagers, December 2000)

24% usia 14-17 tahun mengetahui sedikitnya 1 pelajar menjadi korban dari dating violence (kekerasan waktu pacaran), 81% orang tuanya meyakini bahwa dating violence bukan suatu masalah bahkan tidak tahu kalau itu adalah masalah.

  • Less than 25% of teens say they have discussed dating violence with their parents. (Liz Claiborne Inc. study of teens 13-17 conducted by Applied Research and Consulting LLC, Spring 2000)

Kurang dari 25% remaja mengatakan, mereka berdiskusi dengan orang tua, tentang penganiayaan saat berpacaran.

  • 89% of teens between the ages of 13 and 18 say they have been in dating relationships; forty percent of teenage girls age 14 to 17 report knowing someone their age who has been hit or beaten by a boyfriend. (Children Now/Kaiser Permanente poll, December 1995)

89% remaja usia 13-18 tahun mengatakan, mereka sudah berpacaran; 40% remaja putri usia 14-17 tahun melaporkan ada teman mereka yang dipukul oleh pacarnya.

  • Nearly 80% of girls who have been physically abused in their intimate relationships continue to date their abuser. (City of New York, Teen Relationship Abuse Fact Sheet, March 1998)

Hampir 80% gadis telah disakiti secara fisik oleh pacarnya dan terus melanjutkan pacaran dengannya.

  • Of the women between the ages 15-19 murdered each year, 30% are killed by their husband or boyfriend. (City of New York, Teen Relationship Abuse Fact Sheet, March 1998)

Dari gadis usia 15-19 tahun yang dibunuh tiap tahunnya, 30%nya dibunuh oleh suami atau pacarnya.

  • Studies show that at least one in ten teens will be in an abusive relationship. In abusive relationships between boyfriends and girlfriends, 95% of the time it’s a boyfriend abusing a girlfriend. It’s not easy to leave an abusive relationship at any age. It’s even harder for teens to leave abusive relationships because of fewer resources and uninformed adults who think it’s “just two kids fighting.”

Fakta menyingkap sedikitnya 1 dari 10 remaja berada dalam relasi yang abusive. 95% merupakan kekerasan pria terhadap wanita. Tidak mudah mengakhiri sebuah hubungan abusive. Bahkan lebih sulit bagi remaja,  karena terlalu sedikit sumber informasinya. Terlebih, orang dewasa yang tidak mengerti, hanya berpikir, “Itu kan cuma anak kecil yang sedang berkelahi saja.”

  • Abuse happens in all different kinds of relationships, including same sex/same gender relationships. Teen dating violence can happen to anyone no matter what his or her race or where they live. Police, counselors and schools can be messed up about racism or sexual orientation and sometimes don’t provide the same support to all kids and young adults. (www.bradleyangle.org)

Kekerasan hadir dalam berbagai macam relasi (termasuk yang sejenis). Kekerasan dalam pacaran remaja dapat dialami pada siapa saja, ras apapun, dimanapun. Polisi, konselor, dan sekolah dapat salah mengartikan bahwa ini masalah  ras atau kecenderungan sexual, dan terkadang tidak menyediakan dukungan yang sama pada semua anak dan muda-mudi.

  • In 2002, close to 1.7 million teenagers (ages 12 to 19) were victims of violent crime. More than 1.4 million of those were physically assaulted, almost 124,000 were raped/sexually assaulted, and nearly 115,000 were robbed.

Di tahun 2002, hampir 1.7 juta remaja (usia 12-19) merupakan korban dari kejahatan. Lebih dari 1.4 juta dari mereka mengalami kekerasan fisik, 124.000 diperkosa, dan 115.000 dirampok.

  • Persons ages 12 to 19 experienced all violent crimes at rates higher than other age groups in 2002. Persons ages 12 to 19 were raped/sexually assaulted at rates higher than any other age group.

Orang usia 12-19 tahun mengalami kejahatan lebih banyak dari grup usia lainnya pada tahun 2002. Demikian juga, dengan yang pemerkosaan, lebih banyak dialami orang yang termasuk dalam usia 12-19 tahun.

  • In a study of lifetime prevalence of four types of violence, researchers found that almost 40 percent of American adolescents witnessed violence, 17 percent were victims of physical assault, 9 percent were victims of physically abusive punishment, and 8 percent were victims of sexual assault.

Dalam study jangka panjang, ada 4 jenis kejahatan; peneliti menemukan hampir 40% dewasa Amerika menjadi saksi kejahatan, 17% korbannya mengalami serangan fisik, 9%  korban hukuman siksaan fisik, dan 8%nya korban kekerasan sexual.

Fakta-fakta ini di atas adalah dari dari Amerika. Kita tidak mengetahui secara pasti data-data di Indonesia karena kurangnya riset di negara ini. Tetapi, data di atas dapat menjadi cermin betapa bahayanya anak-anak muda saat memasuki masa-masa pacaran.

Mari jadikan Dating INSIGHT sebagai sumber informasi bagi putera-putri Anda. Bersama-sama kita SAVE Our Generation!

Salam Dating INSIGHT: Insightful Christian Dating Principles!

 

Ev. Chang Khui Fa & Liana

 

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